Sexual Intimacy After an Affair

Life doesn’t always turn out as we expect does it? In those shocking, heartbreaking moments, when we are faced with something big that changes our lives forever, we must choose if we are going to place our broken life into God’s hands.

Last June, my husband and I ran the Tough Mudder together . On our way to the event, I had a sense of hope for our future. We had been in counseling since the previous December to work on our marriage in general, and to help my husband process painful memories of childhood sexual abuse that he’d never dealt with. Previously, he was in bondage to the abuse, and it impacted his fantasy life, leading to sinful patterns. My husband experienced months of depression and shed many tears as he tried to face these painful memories, rather than continuing to bury them after all those years. Because of this, he was transformed by the love of God. My husband was finally experiencing freedom in this area and we now had the tools to better communicate with each other. I was feeling hopeful, in love with him, and looking forward to an upcoming move to a new town.

After our weekend mud run, we went to a routine counseling session. I remember thinking how I felt we were doing well and that we had been given the tools we needed to work on our marriage. I really didn’t think we needed to continue our counseling for long. But, shortly after sitting down in this particular session, I sensed that my life was about to change. I braced myself to hear what was about to come from my husband’s mouth. I knew I was not going to like what I heard. I remember sitting there in a fog, feeling like time just slowed down. Then the dreaded words came. My husband confessed to having an affair.

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