Affair recovery
Are you standing outside the grave mourning the loss of your dream? I was there, devastated by the loss of faithfulness in my marriage. My dream of a happy, fairy tale marriage was dead. Just like Martha standing outside of Lazarus' tomb all looks lost. Until.... Jesus walks in. The Resurrected Lord stands by our... Continue Reading →
You have heard the saying "Time heals all wounds." After the realization that my spouse had an affair, time was a thing to endure. Time was filled with raw pain and agony that stretched for days and months. Tears that never seemed to stop flowing. The first year afterward will be a time of grieving.... Continue Reading →
Do marriages survive this? Has anyone else been through this and thrived on the other side? How do I move forward? How do I heal? These were all questions I had after my spouse confessed to an affair. I searched the internet looking for a true story of someone who had been through infidelity and... Continue Reading →
Sitting in my car in the dark I knew I needed to go home, but I didn’t want to. I didn’t want to face him. That day my world came crashing down. My spouse had confessed to an affair. Needing space, I’d left to talk to a friend and now the light of day had... Continue Reading →
Boundaries "A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls." Proverbs 25:28 The word boundary, limits, or confines can sound restrictive, giving a feeling of negative connotation. Back in Bible days boundary lines for land defined possession. A sense of pride and belonging was felt with the inheritance of land.... Continue Reading →
I had imagined it many times. Played out the scenario over and over and in various ways. Sometimes my fist hit her in the face. Sometimes I fired angry accusations and questions of why? Sometimes I imagined hugging her and crying, but then sitting her down to talk things out. I always judged her in... Continue Reading →
From a worldly perspective, there's not much hope for a cheater to mend his ways or for that path to be corrected and stay corrected. The cheater can feel justified for his behavior. He or she can decide to believe that marriage/committed relationships weigh you down and interfere with freedom and happiness. How we think... Continue Reading →
If you have a spouse involved in infidelity, you are probably looking for answers and trying to make a decision. This is a decision to stay in the marriage and work through it or leave and start over. When you first find out your spouse is unfaithful, you experience a whirlwind of emotions. Your life... Continue Reading →
Reflecting on 2020, it is a year of loss but also great gain. 2020 has been a year of incredible personal and spiritual growth for me. I was stretched to great lengths. Strangely, in experiencing loss we realize the things that we often take for granted. In that loss I became aware of the things... Continue Reading →
Something they don't tell you about separation or divorce is that quite literally it feels like half of yourself is cut off and missing. I realize there are situations that require a couple to separate and not be able to reconcile. But the reality for me was that after 17 years of marriage I felt... Continue Reading →
A Wife’s Recovery From An Affair 