Sitting in my car in the dark I knew I needed to go home, but I didn’t want to. I didn’t want to face him. That day my world came crashing down. My spouse had confessed to an affair. Needing space, I’d left to talk to a friend and now the light of day had... Continue Reading →
Does Time Work For You?
You have heard the saying "Time heals all wounds." After the realization that my spouse had an affair, time was a thing to endure. Time was filled with raw pain and agony that stretched for days and months. Tears that never seemed to stop flowing. The first year afterward will be a time of grieving.... Continue Reading →
Embracing the Other Woman, a Testimony
I had imagined it many times. Played out the scenario over and over and in various ways. Sometimes my fist hit her in the face. Sometimes I fired angry accusations and questions of why? Sometimes I imagined hugging her and crying, but then sitting her down to talk things out. I always judged her in... Continue Reading →
Fight or Flight
Dear Reader, It has been over a year and a half since my last blog post. There is something healthy and healing in stepping away and choosing to not dwell on the past. Yet this story is so apart of me, of us, that it is still being told and lessons lived. I am currently... Continue Reading →
Reflections A Year After The Affair
Yesterday was a year to the date that my world flipped upside down with my husband’s confession to an affair. A year. A time that seems short, yet long in other ways. So much has happened this past year. Lots of tears, hard relational work and life changes. Since the confession we moved to a... Continue Reading →
3 Great Resources In Healing From An Affair
These are three great resources that I used after the affair. I explain a little about each one in this video. https://youtu.be/lDGhWyJFeJg
Wrestling with God
I came from a household that regularly wrestled with each other. There was lots of tickling wars, piggie back rides, stealing my dad's socks off his feet, and hanging on dad's legs to try and bring him down during a wrestling match. Later on in my teens my brother and I took karate and... Continue Reading →
Sexual Intimacy After an Affair
Life doesn’t always turn out as we expect does it? In those shocking, heartbreaking moments, when we are faced with something big that changes our lives forever, we must choose if we are going to place our broken life into God’s hands. Last June, my husband and I ran the Tough Mudder together . On... Continue Reading →
Falling in Love Again After The Affair
Perhaps one of the biggest surprises to me after my husband’s confession to the affair was the realization of how much he did mean to me and my willingness to work through it. Anger often had triumphed in my life and I fully believed that if he ever did that I would walk... Continue Reading →
Cleaning Up After An Affair
If you learn your spouse is having an affair and you decide to stay and work things out together, there will be a bit of "clean up" that needs to be done. Things have to change. There is an accountability and responsibility for your spouse to be open and honest if there is to be... Continue Reading →