Are you standing outside the grave mourning the loss of your dream? I was there, devastated by the loss of faithfulness in my marriage. My dream of a happy, fairy tale marriage was dead. Just like Martha standing outside of Lazarus' tomb all looks lost. Until.... Jesus walks in. The Resurrected Lord stands by our... Continue Reading →
Does Time Work For You?
You have heard the saying "Time heals all wounds." After the realization that my spouse had an affair, time was a thing to endure. Time was filled with raw pain and agony that stretched for days and months. Tears that never seemed to stop flowing. The first year afterward will be a time of grieving.... Continue Reading →
The School of Separation part 1
I thought our fight was over. I thought I was on the right path this past February. What I didn't know was that I was on the right path but there were going to be major bumps and pitfalls I was going to have to go through to get where God was trying to move... Continue Reading →
Fight or Flight
Dear Reader, It has been over a year and a half since my last blog post. There is something healthy and healing in stepping away and choosing to not dwell on the past. Yet this story is so apart of me, of us, that it is still being told and lessons lived. I am currently... Continue Reading →
Wrestling with God
I came from a household that regularly wrestled with each other. There was lots of tickling wars, piggie back rides, stealing my dad's socks off his feet, and hanging on dad's legs to try and bring him down during a wrestling match. Later on in my teens my brother and I took karate and... Continue Reading →
Sexual Intimacy After an Affair
Life doesn’t always turn out as we expect does it? In those shocking, heartbreaking moments, when we are faced with something big that changes our lives forever, we must choose if we are going to place our broken life into God’s hands. Last June, my husband and I ran the Tough Mudder together . On... Continue Reading →
Love is Grace
I only dated one guy before dating my husband. Though I enjoyed the attention and was attracted to him I never felt the feelings of love. My distress grew as one night after dating for about a month, he told me he loved me and wanted to know if I loved him. I wanted... Continue Reading →
Best Date Ideas
I love, love, love, creative unusual dates. The kind that throw in unexpected adventure, fun, and games. That is why I am in love with the Dating Divas. If you have never checked them out you should! They will inspire you to new heights of awesomeness in your dating experience. Some of our favorite dates... Continue Reading →
Valentines and First Loves
I love holidays and themes so since it is February, the month of love, I will be writing some posts with the theme of dating, love, and marriage. Can you remember your first love? I’m sure you do! It had to be pretty memorable or maybe even embarrassing for those that were the first love... Continue Reading →
Cleaning Up After An Affair
If you learn your spouse is having an affair and you decide to stay and work things out together, there will be a bit of "clean up" that needs to be done. Things have to change. There is an accountability and responsibility for your spouse to be open and honest if there is to be... Continue Reading →