Looking back I now clearly see the warning signs that were around me of the impending affair about to happen. I had internal feelings, sensitivities, and awareness that something wasn't right. I could feel the distance in my husband. I also felt a deep discomfort and insecurity with the regular communication I knew... Continue Reading →
Wrestling with God
I came from a household that regularly wrestled with each other. There was lots of tickling wars, piggie back rides, stealing my dad's socks off his feet, and hanging on dad's legs to try and bring him down during a wrestling match. Later on in my teens my brother and I took karate and... Continue Reading →
Sexual Intimacy After an Affair
Life doesn’t always turn out as we expect does it? In those shocking, heartbreaking moments, when we are faced with something big that changes our lives forever, we must choose if we are going to place our broken life into God’s hands. Last June, my husband and I ran the Tough Mudder together . On... Continue Reading →
Love is Grace
I only dated one guy before dating my husband. Though I enjoyed the attention and was attracted to him I never felt the feelings of love. My distress grew as one night after dating for about a month, he told me he loved me and wanted to know if I loved him. I wanted... Continue Reading →
Falling in Love Again After The Affair
Perhaps one of the biggest surprises to me after my husband’s confession to the affair was the realization of how much he did mean to me and my willingness to work through it. Anger often had triumphed in my life and I fully believed that if he ever did that I would walk... Continue Reading →
Best Date Ideas
I love, love, love, creative unusual dates. The kind that throw in unexpected adventure, fun, and games. That is why I am in love with the Dating Divas. If you have never checked them out you should! They will inspire you to new heights of awesomeness in your dating experience. Some of our favorite dates... Continue Reading →
Valentines and First Loves
I love holidays and themes so since it is February, the month of love, I will be writing some posts with the theme of dating, love, and marriage. Can you remember your first love? I’m sure you do! It had to be pretty memorable or maybe even embarrassing for those that were the first love... Continue Reading →
Cleaning Up After An Affair
If you learn your spouse is having an affair and you decide to stay and work things out together, there will be a bit of "clean up" that needs to be done. Things have to change. There is an accountability and responsibility for your spouse to be open and honest if there is to be... Continue Reading →
When Will The Tears Stop?
Tears. They can be such a blessed relief and comfort sometimes, but they can also feel never ending. When I first learned about my husband’s affair I strangely couldn’t cry very much. I wanted to but it just wouldn’t come. Slowly, as processing happened they did start to flow and I was able to grieve... Continue Reading →
Idols of Sex
Ever since I was a teenager and understood the purpose of sex in marriage I held it in high regard. I believed it was a gift and something that I only wanted to share with the man I married one day. After going to a True Love Waits seminar which encouraged teens to save sex... Continue Reading →