Does Time Work For You?

You have heard the saying "Time heals all wounds." After the realization that my spouse had an affair, time was a thing to endure. Time was filled with raw pain and agony that stretched for days and months. Tears that never seemed to stop flowing. The first year afterward will be a time of grieving.... Continue Reading →

Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?

From a worldly perspective, there's not much hope for a cheater to mend his ways or for that path to be corrected and stay corrected. The cheater can feel justified for his behavior. He or she can decide to believe that marriage/committed relationships weigh you down and interfere with freedom and happiness. How we think... Continue Reading →

Fight or Flight

Dear Reader, It has been over a year and a half since my last blog post. There is something healthy and healing in stepping away and choosing to not dwell on the past. Yet this story is so apart of me, of us, that it is still being told and lessons lived. I am currently... Continue Reading →

Reflections A Year After The Affair

Yesterday was a year to the date that my world flipped upside down with my husband’s confession to an affair. A year. A time that seems short, yet long in other ways. So much has happened this past year. Lots of tears, hard relational work and life changes. Since the confession we moved to a... Continue Reading →

Letting Go of the Past

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” -C.S. Lewis Leave the past behind and move forward... How do I do that? God has done a lot in my life and in our marriage and healing. Many factors have... Continue Reading →

Processing Anger After An Affair

  This could be a dangerous topic. Emotions are high after finding out your spouse cheated. One minute you may feel emotionless, another you might feel sympathy if your spouse seems repentant, then the next you may want to kill them. I would strongly advise against the latter. Lol Yikes! But seriously, I have been... Continue Reading →

The Message in the Affair

  Even though my husband made the choice to be unfaithful I also contributed to the atmosphere and sins that had impact upon that decision. I had always idolized sexual intimacy in our relationship but I shied away from emotional intimacy. Honesty and vulnerability were something I greatly struggled with. I was afraid that some... Continue Reading →

Go With Your Gut

    Looking back I now clearly see the warning signs that were around me of the impending affair about to happen. I had internal feelings, sensitivities, and awareness that something wasn't right. I could feel the distance in my husband. I also felt a deep discomfort and insecurity with the regular communication I knew... Continue Reading →

Blog at WordPress.com.

Up ↑